Based on my book, "Letting Go of Good," endorsed by Caroline Myss, Dr. Larry Dossey and others, today we are going to talk about the difference between being good and being real. Since the time when we were toddlers we've heard "Be good" from our parents. Even was they waved us off to college, with tears in their eyes, they gave us the same tired advice, "Be good." But first, being good is a dubious concept, since what is good to one is not so good to another. Further, there are many ways in which we think we are being good, by following all of the dictates of society for duty, obligation, loyalty, should, have to, ought to but we are also filled with a sense of meaninglessness or even resentment. So, is any of that genuine. Regardless of how it looks to others, and even to ourselves, being good can be done from very insincere motivations. Further, people who are always striving to be good as a method of gaining or maintaining a sense of worthiness are often taken advantage of by controllig and even abusive people. Sometimes that idea means we are not using skills such as intuition and discernment. So, tune in today and let's find out how to stop being good and start being real.

We have arrived at adolescence in our understanding of relationship—in other words, we have a long way to go. But, well, what do we expect? Only 150 years ago, marriages were often still arranged even in first world countries. We arranged for a good dowry, good property, money, inheritance, prestige, even good teeth and good hips. So this thing of marrying someone we love is new, and we have only begun the work of understanding how to do it. But you know what typically happens in adolescence: we fall in love and out of love very quickly.We stumble and bumble and slowly make our way into something we might call a forever relationship. But because we are stilling learning what it means to have a healthy relationship, these forevers often don't last. But is is possible that each stumble and bumble, each forever that doesn't last can teach us a little more and a little more? If so, what are we learning? Tune in to learn more.

We typically think of duality in terms of its spiritual consequence. But today we are talking about duality in terms of its PSYCHOSPIRITUAL consequence. Psychospiritual duality has created a split between consciousness and unconsciousnesss so that, since we are not fully either, we live in a semi-conscious state. The fact that we cannot fully be either does, in and of itself, argue against that duality that says that everything is polarized into "either/or" rather than "both/and." But since we can't really be "both/and" when we are semi-conscious, we will need to do something about that. Semi-consciousness is not a state we can call truly alive. So, it is essential that we begin to talk about it. And today, we will. We will talk about how that split happened and what we can do about it.

If you did something you didn't like, and I ask you why you did it, you might have to say, "I don't know why I did that." And, if we are honest, we might have to admit that there are things that we do, things that we say, even things that we think or feel, about which we might have to say, "Where did THAT come from?" These things are not "bad" things as much as they are just things we do without having to think about it. We just do it, because we do it. These things commonly come from something called a family trance. In our families of origin we often develop certain ways of thinking, feeling, acting and interacting that have more to do with the unconscious demands of family than they do with who we actually are. In fact, many of us, even as early as infancy, gave up who we actually were to this family trance in which we were assigned a role and everafter just did whatever that role told us to do. Want to know more? Tune in.