This episode is personal for me. Over the past six months, I’ve explored the ADHDer's inner critic intensively, drawing insights from influential books like “Healing the Shame That Binds You,” “Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving,” and “Rethinking Adult ADHD.” While the inner critic isn’t a formal symptom of ADHD, it profoundly impacts those of us with the disorder.

In this episode, we start by examining how negative self-talk, often rooted in childhood criticism and toxic relationships, affects adults with ADHD. This inner critic can lead to self-hate and hypervigilance, causing toxic shame and hindering personal growth. I share my own struggles with shame rumination and the challenge of cultivating a positive inner voice, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion.

To combat negative self-talk, I suggest strategies like journaling, verbalizing criticisms, and using thought-stopping techniques. Recognizing and documenting positive aspects of life can foster a healthier self-perception. Additionally, support systems like trauma-informed therapy and specialized coaching programs play a vital role in managing the inner critic and associated shame.

Managing the inner critic is challenging but achievable with the right strategies and support systems. Want my help? Join FOCUSED for an entire course with a step-by-step process on how ADHDers can quiet their inner critic.

Here are the 2 studies I mention In the episode:
Peer Functioning in Children with ADHD
Peer victimization in children with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder

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In this episode we are diving deep into the world of adult ADHD, addressing common misconceptions, and highlighting the unique characteristics that make adult ADHD so distinct.

I break down 10 of the symptoms of ADHD and explain in detail how they show up in your daily life. If you think you might have adult ADHD or you want a refresher on what it means to have ADHD, you're going to love this ep!

Symptoms List
Diagnostic Criteria
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Meet my sister, Adrienne Himelright. In this episode, we dive deep into our shared experiences with ADHD and the all-too-familiar challenges of people-pleasing. Adrienne opens up about her struggles, including sharing a story where people-pleasing led her to drain her retirement account.

Adrienne coaches people every single day on how to stop people-pleasing and in this episode, she shares a step-by-step process of how ADHDers can STOP people-pleasing. She even has a resource for you on her website Meet my sister, Adrienne Himelright. In this episode, we dive deep into our shared experiences with ADHD and the all-too-familiar challenges of people-pleasing. Adrienne opens up about her struggles, including sharing a story where people-pleasing led her to drain her retirement account.

Adrienne coaches people every single day on how to stop people-pleasing and in this episode, she shares a step-by-step process of how ADHDers can STOP people-pleasing. She even has a resource for you on her website.

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Stacy Scott is a feng shui practitioner and decluttering expert who has so much wisdom to share about how our environments impact our self-concept and personal growth. You won’t want to miss this transformative conversation!

We delve into the influence of childhood experiences on adult behaviors related to clutter. Stacy shares insights on how chaos and even trauma from our early years can shape our relationship with our living spaces. She also touches on the pitfalls of striving for minimalism, cautioning that it can sometimes lead to neglecting our self-worth.

The conversation takes a critical look at societal pressures, particularly on women and mothers, to maintain perfect homes. Instead of unrealistic expectations, Stacy advocates for support and understanding.

For those of us with ADHD, maintaining morning routines and managing clutter can be incredibly challenging. Stacy offers practical advice and emphasizes the importance of addressing the shame and overwhelm that often accompany these struggles. We also critique the rigid norms of minimalism and cleanliness that society imposes on us.

The takeaway? You're allowed to be messy!

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Join me in welcoming my friend and colleague, Paula Engebretson! In this episode, we dive into productivity strategies, managing emails, and how tools like ChatGPT can make a difference in our daily lives. Paula’s focus on productivity and my passion for personal growth blend perfectly in this engaging and insightful conversation.
One of the highlights of our conversation is the practical advice Paula provides on email management. She breaks down different types of emails and offers strategies to keep your inbox clutter-free. From thought downloads to responding to emails from the bottom up, Paula’s tips are game-changers. We also touch on the emotional complexities tied to unsubscribing and how grounding processes can help manage feelings of overwhelm and anxiety.
We dive into additional strategies for managing deadlines and tasks, emphasizing the importance of setting realistic timelines and using techniques like “body doubling” for productivity. Paula introduces ChatGPT as a valuable tool for individuals with ADHD, aiding in communication, planning, and time management. I share how ChatGPT has enhanced my professional communication, helping me draft emails and create show notes from podcast transcripts. It’s like having a supportive friend that aids in idea iteration and communication improvement.
This episode is packed with resources for managing prioritization and productivity, including Paula’s own “I’m Busy Being Awesome” podcast and various coaching options. Whether you’re looking to improve your email management, understand your ADHD strengths, or find new tools to boost productivity, this episode has something for everyone.

1. Podcast episode link: Episode 255: An ADHD ChatGPT Guide
2. Workbook: https://imbusybeingawesome.com/chat
3. Instagram: Imbusybeingawesome
4. TikTok: Imbusybeingawesome

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I’m thrilled to share a deeply insightful conversation with my mentor, Africa Brooke. Africa’s latest book, “The Third Perspective,” dives into the complex realms of self-sabotage and censorship, and in our discussion, we unpack the significance of moving beyond binary thinking in today’s society.

In this episode, Africa and I explore the evolutionary roots of societal pressures to conform and the vital importance of brave expression and embracing nuance, especially amidst the increasing intolerance we see around us.

We delve into the personal challenges that come with non-conformity, particularly for those of us with ADHD or from dysfunctional backgrounds. Africa sheds light on the internal conflict between being authentic and staying safe, emphasizing how self-censorship in relationships often leads to deep dissatisfaction.

One of the standout moments in our conversation is Africa’s reflection on her open letter, “Why I’m Leaving the Cult of Wokeness,” which she penned during the pandemic. This letter critiques the intense societal pressures surrounding racial justice and public health debates, touching on the painful conflict between staying true to oneself and feeling like a traitor to others. We also tackle the implications of cancel culture and the paramount importance of authenticity over conformity.

Africa and I discuss the intricacies of identity, activism, and the unique pressures faced by women online, particularly the phenomenon of “context collapse.” This is where our curated online personas can lead to misunderstandings. We advocate for acknowledging personal contradictions and fostering curiosity and awareness, especially for neurodivergent individuals who may struggle with black-and-white thinking.

I hope you found this episode as enlightening and empowering as I did. Africa's insights are a powerful reminder of the importance of authenticity, bravery, and nuance in our lives.

Why I'm Leaving the Cult of Wokeness

The Third Perspective

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I'm celebrating my 20th wedding anniversary with my husband Greg by having him on the podcast today! We’ll be diving into the ups and downs of our relationship, how we’ve navigated the challenges brought on by the early pandemic, and how we’ve grown individually and together over the past two decades. So, grab your favorite beverage, get cozy, and join us for an intimate conversation about love, life, and ADHD.

We’ve both learned so much about compassion, communication, and the importance of accepting each other’s flaws. We’ve grown a lot in managing conflicts and emotional regulation, and today, we’re sharing some insights from a recent disagreement that actually showcased our improved conflict management skills.

As parents of neurodivergent children, we’ve had to shift our expectations and communication strategies. Instead of trying to force habits, we’ve learned to accept our children’s inherent traits, which has made a world of difference in our family dynamics.

Greg and I also want to offer some advice for maintaining a successful marriage, especially when ADHD is part of the equation. We can’t stress enough the importance of grace, mercy, apologizing, compromising, and making time for connection. Long-term partnerships are complex, but with proactive communication, mindfulness, and understanding each other’s emotional experiences, they can also be incredibly rewarding.

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Dyslexia expert Natalie Brooks joins me today to dive deep into the interplay between ADHD and dyslexia, exploring the importance of recognizing multiple neurodiversities.

Natalie shares her personal experiences with dyslexia and sheds light on its overlap with ADHD. Get ready for an enlightening conversation that uncovers the challenges and triumphs of living with multiple neurodivergencies.

Natalie critiques common misconceptions about dyslexia, particularly the notion that dyslexic individuals are overly verbose yet struggle with clarity and editing. She contrasts her supportive educational journey, aided by a dedicated dyslexic unit, with her parents’ negative experiences due to undiagnosed conditions.

Obtaining a dyslexia diagnosis as an adult is another crucial topic we touch upon, acknowledging the financial and personal challenges it entails. Natalie emphasizes that while a formal diagnosis can provide exam accommodations, self-identification is often accepted in workplaces. She shares her own journey towards an ADHD diagnosis, highlighting the validation received from knowledgeable friends and the varying needs for recognition among individuals based on their past experiences.

As we wrap up this insightful episode, Natalie and I emphasize the importance of confidence building and healing within supportive communities. We encourage you to connect with others facing similar struggles to foster self-acceptance and personal growth.

Dyslexia In Adults
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